Is collaboration milk coffee?

I decided to collaborate with an artist friend, but when we started discussing the details, we found ourselves a little confused by the differences in our ways of thinking.

In the first place, we are different beings from others, so we were prepared for the premise that we would have different ideas in collaboration (that's what collaboration is), but between us, the question of what "milk coffee" should be became an issue. "Milk coffee" here is an analogy for milk and coffee combining to become milk coffee, and in this case, it means that each presence is maintained and they are mixed side by side to achieve harmony. In short, it means maintaining one's own presence while striving for harmony with the other person; these days, collaboration generally often evokes this kind of image, and this time, too, this image stood between us.

However, I had not even considered such a form from the beginning, and was looking for something more intense and violent, where each side would erode the other. Certainly, looking at the current state of affairs, conflicts are more prominent than fusions, and people are especially conscious of the value of fusion with others, so it is understandable that people would want to start with a gentle fusion. However, I believe that art has more power than we think, and I had a faint hope that artists could build a more intense and harmonious relationship. In my mind, I thought that in order to achieve this, it was necessary to have an exchange in which each person's individuality violently erodes the other person's identity and invasively shake the other person's identity. Normally, one would see the possibility of a conflict arising here and developing into a fight, but what I am thinking is another possibility of how to overcome this situation from this point with an artistic idea. This is a calm idea that assumes that people cannot essentially understand the inner depths of others. Here, you decide to try and accept the foreign elements presented by the other person for the time being, and try to reconstruct yourself anew using these materials.

I know that art has this potential to tolerate this. In that case, I will avoid clinging to my old self and try to reconstruct myself from a blank slate, and I will think that the result will not be a mixture of two things that exist side by side like "milk coffee," but a fusion that contains the potential for transformation. This is what I think of as collaboration, and it exists before me as an effective methodology for discovering and updating oneself anew.

I believe that human existence is always in a state of flux, and when you consider that life is possible only because some of the cells in our bodies are constantly being regenerated into new ones, it is not at all unreasonable to think of collaboration as a form of expression as a different way of aiding in this renewal.